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Strapless strap-ons are a great idea that often works badly: many don't stay in place without a harness. The Lovense Lapis has a shaped bulb meant to stay in, plus three separately controlled motors and full app control.
The result is a toy that stimulates both partners at the same time, without a harness or cables. Here's what it takes to use it well, and whether $129 is justified.
✍️ Emma's take
Strapless strap-ons fascinate me because the idea is so good and so many fail at it. From buyer reports, the Lapis is one of the exceptions: the bulb stays in well enough for most people to use it hands-free, which is the point, and with three motors both partners get vibration, not only the one being penetrated.
The app is a useful extra for couples who already use Lovense. The battery (Lovense: 58 to 156 minutes) is on the short side for a couples toy, which is worth knowing upfront.
If strapless strap-ons have disappointed you before, because they slipped or the wearer felt little, the Lapis is worth a look; the three motors are what change that.
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⭐ Quick verdict
8.0/10. Three separately controlled motors (bulb, shaft, tip), IPX7 and the Lovense app make the Lapis a versatile couples toy. The strapless fit takes practice and the battery is short (58 to 156 minutes), but once you have the fit, few toys stimulate both partners like this.
🛒 Get the Lapis — Official StoreHow this score was calculated
Research-based review: built from the maker's published specs and verified buyer reviews; I have not tested this toy myself. The same grid for every brand: nine criteria scored out of 10 and weighted (full method on How I review). Battery life is ranked among the app-connected dildos on this site (longest = 10), value is measured against their median price, and noise runs from 30 dB (10) to 70 dB (0). A figure Lovense does not publish drops out of the score and the other weights scale up.
Score: 8.0/10
✅ A good fit for
- Couples who want both partners stimulated at once
- Anyone who wants strap-on play without a harness
- Long-distance couples using app control
- Those who want flexibility to use solo or with a partner
- Experienced toy users comfortable with strapless fit
⚠️ Consider alternatives if
- You're new to strapless strap-ons (steep fit learning curve)
- You want maximum thrusting depth (harness dildo is better)
- Budget matters (the Flexer costs $99)
- You'd struggle to hold it in with your pelvic floor
What's in the box
The Lapis ships in Lovense's plain packaging, with no product name outside and a discreet billing name and return address.
📦 What's in the box
- Lapis: bulb, shaft and tip in one body-safe silicone toy
- Magnetic USB charging cable: Lovense's own charger, so keep it safe
- Storage pouch: keeps the silicone dust-free between sessions
- Quick-start guide: pairing steps and the Lovense Remote link
Buyers often say the Lapis is bigger than it looks in photos: Lovense gives 315 g and 230 mm, with a pronounced S-curve.
Design and dimensions
The Lapis is an S-shaped silicone body with two jobs: the bulb goes inside the wearer, for stimulation and to hold it in place, and the shaft goes inside the receiving partner.
Dimensions and materials
- Shaft: 138 mm (5.4 in) long, 41 mm (1.6 in) wide
- Bulb: 87 mm (3.4 in) long, 39 mm (1.5 in) wide, shaped to sit against the G-spot
- Weight: 315 g
- Material: body-safe silicone, non-porous, for use with water-based lube
- Waterproof: IPX7, fully submersible to 1 metre for bath play and easy cleaning
The shaft curves up toward the front wall of the receiving partner's vagina, as a G-spot vibrator does. The bulb curves the other way, toward the front wall of the wearer's. That double curve is what helps it stay in with less muscle effort than a straight design.
The three motors
Most vibrating strap-ons have one motor, some two. The Lapis has three, each controlled separately, and that makes a real difference.
💜 Bulb motor
Embedded in the internal bulb. Provides direct G-spot stimulation for the wearer from the inside. Vibrates independently of the external shaft.
⚡ Shaft motor
Mid-shaft placement transmits vibration throughout the full length of the toy. Creates a base rumble that both partners feel during penetration.
🎯 Tip motor
Located at the shaft tip for targeted internal stimulation of the receiving partner. Can be run at a different intensity and pattern to the shaft motor.
📱 Separate control
Each motor has its own slider and patterns in the app. Run all three together, or set each partner's side differently.
In practice, one partner can have a slow, deep pulse on the bulb while the other gets fast vibration at the tip, which a single-motor toy can't do.
Three separately controlled motors, no harness, full app control.
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Fit and how to wear it
A strapless fit is a skill, and knowing that upfront saves frustration. The wearer's pelvic floor muscles, the ones used in Kegel exercises, hold the bulb in. That takes active muscle tone, especially when you move a lot.
Getting the fit right
- Apply water-based lubricant to the bulb before insertion. This reduces friction and makes seating the bulb correctly much easier.
- Insert at a slight downward angle, then let the toy's natural curve guide the bulb into position. You'll feel when it's properly seated against the G-spot area.
- Tighten your pelvic floor lightly, without gripping hard; that tone is what keeps the bulb in when you move.
- Start with positions where the toy stays naturally horizontal (lying down, doggy style) before trying positions that work against gravity.
- Practise alone first: time with the Lapis on your own builds the muscle awareness and confidence that make it work.
Positions that work best
- Doggy style: gravity helps keep the bulb in, so it's one of the easiest positions to start with
- Spooning: relaxed and with little movement, good for building confidence
- Missionary: Wearer on top with active core engagement keeps the Lapis secure
- Rider position: Works well once comfortable; requires the most PC floor strength
Many couples say the fit feels natural after a few sessions; the learning curve is real but short. If it still slips often, the cause is more often lube than anatomy, and more lube usually fixes it.
App and long-distance control
The Lovense Remote app is where the three motors pay off. It shows three control panels, one per motor, each with its own slider, patterns and presets. It's one of the busier Lovense app screens, after the Nora/Max 2 sync screen, but it's easy once you see that each panel is one zone.
📡 Bluetooth
For use in the same room or home; buyers report a stable connection.
🌍 Over the internet
Share a control link and your partner can run each of the three motors live from anywhere.
🎵 Music and sound sync
All three motors can follow ambient sound or music, or you can pick which motor follows the sound while the others run patterns.
🎨 Pattern library
Download community patterns, or build your own sequence for each motor in the editor.
At a distance, one partner can use the Lapis alone as a double-ended dildo while the other controls all three motors over the internet, which gives more to play with than a single-motor toy.
Without the app
One button: hold it for 3 seconds to switch the toy on or off, and tap it to cycle through the built-in vibration settings. Custom patterns, sound and music sync, and partner or long-distance control need the Lovense Remote app.
App & privacy
- App: Lovense Remote (Hytto Pte. Ltd. / Lovense).
- App Store label: linked to you: email address, user ID, usage data; not linked to you: product interaction, crash and performance data; no tracking declared.
- Google Play: shared with other companies: device or other IDs (analytics); collected: name, email address, crash logs, diagnostics, photos (optional), videos (optional), app interactions (optional); encrypted in transit; you can ask for your data to be deleted.
- Known incidents: 2017: the Android app kept an audio recording of sessions on the phone; Lovense called it a bug and fixed it in version 3.0.7 (Help Net Security). 2025: researchers showed that a username was enough to find a user's email address and take over the account; Lovense says both flaws were fixed by 30 July 2025 (BleepingComputer).
Checked on 12 October 2026. Store labels are declared by the developer; Apple and Google don't verify them.
Lapis vs. Flexer: which should you buy?
Buyers looking at the Lapis often ask how it compares with the Lovense Flexer, a $99 wearable with a come-hither G-spot arm.
| Feature | Lapis ($129) | Flexer ($99) |
|---|---|---|
| Motors | 3 (independent) | 2 (independent) |
| Strapless design | ✅ Yes | ❌ No |
| Both partners stimulated | ✅ Both partners | Wearer only |
| Battery | 58–156 min | 65–120 min |
| Waterproof | IPX7 | IPX7 |
Choose the Lapis if:
You want both partners stimulated: only the Lapis does that here, with its three zones for wearer and receiver.
Choose the Flexer if:
You want a toy for yourself, worn hands-free: the Flexer is simpler, $30 cheaper and needs no strapless technique.
Full specifications
| Specification | Value |
|---|---|
| Price | $129 |
| Motors | 3 (bulb, shaft, tip) |
| Shaft length | 5.43 in (138mm) |
| Shaft width | 1.61 in (41mm) |
| Bulb length | 3.43 in (87mm) |
| Bulb width | 1.52 in (39mm) |
| Weight | 315g |
| Battery | 58–156 min (Lovense) |
| Charge time | ~105 minutes |
| Water rating | IPX7 (submersible to 1m) |
| Material | Body-safe silicone |
Overall Rating
Good: A strapless strap-on with app control for both partners
✅ Pros
- Three separately controlled motors
- Mutual stimulation for both partners
- No harness needed
- Full IPX7 waterproofing
- Two ends: 138 mm and 87 mm (Lovense)
- Complete app and long-distance control
- S-curve that helps it stay in
⚠️ Cons
- Steep learning curve for strapless fit
- Needs pelvic floor strength to wear
- Not as deep-penetrating as harness dildos
- Three-motor app UI can feel complex initially
- $129 and a short battery (58 to 156 min)
🛍️ Where to buy the Lapis
I link to the official Lovense store, which ships the Lapis in discreet packaging with a 1-year warranty.
Where can I buy the Lapis? Directly from the official Lovense store, with no middleman.
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What Lapis buyers rate
Scores from verified buyers on lovense.com. They are separate from my own rating.
Lapis specs at a glance
| 💰 Price | $129 |
| ⚡ Vibration strength | 5.0/5 from buyers, 3 motors (one per end, one in the middle) |
| 🔊 Quiet | 4.5/5 |
| 🏆 Orgasm rating | 4.7/5 |
| 🔗 Harness | None needed (strapless) |
| 💧 Waterproof | IPX7, fully submersible |
| 📱 App | Lovense Remote: separate motor control, long distance, cam |
How the Lapis does in each use
With three motors and a strapless design for two people, how the Lapis does depends a lot on how and with whom you use it. Here's what verified buyers report.
Practising alone first
Experienced buyers advise spending time with the Lapis alone before using it with a partner. Solo sessions are where you build the PC floor awareness that keeps the bulb seated, and where you can experiment with all three motors at different intensities without worrying about a partner's experience at the same time. Buyers who skip this step are more likely to have a frustrating first partnered session.
With a partner: three motors, two people
This is what the Lapis is for. The bulb motor stimulates the wearer's G-spot while the shaft and tip motors stimulate the receiving partner, so both get vibration, controlled separately, during penetration. Buyers say it feels very different from a harness strap-on with a bullet added, because one toy does it all.
Long distance: all three motors from afar
Apart, one partner uses the Lapis alone while the other controls the three motors through Lovense Remote over the internet. The remote partner isn't limited to one vibration: they can run a slow pulse on one end and a faster pattern on the other, and change both live.
Regular use: learning the fit
Many couples say the fit feels natural after a few sessions, though the first ones involve some trial and error with position and lube. After that, sessions go faster: buyers settle on a favourite position and a lube routine.
Who should skip the Lapis
The strapless, three-motor design is unusual, and because it relies on the wearer's pelvic floor, it's the wrong choice in some cases. Look elsewhere if:
- You can't count on your pelvic floor to hold it, or you're buying for solo use. If keeping it in worries you, the Flexer avoids the problem, for less money.
- You want G-spot stimulation via rotation rather than vibration. The Lapis's bulb motor vibrates; if you've found rotation more effective, the Nora is built around that motion instead.
- You want hands-free penetration with nothing to hold in. The Gravity does the thrusting itself, with no muscle effort from anyone.
- You're new to Lovense's app and want the simplest possible starting point. The Lapis's three-panel control interface is the most complex outside Lovense's sync toys; the Ambi is a single-motor toy with a much simpler app screen.
- You want a toy where one partner's role is purely receptive, with no active muscle engagement required. The Lush 4 is a single insertable controlled remotely, with no retention skill involved.
Caring for the Lapis: cleaning between partners and sessions
Because the Lapis is inside both partners in the same session, cleaning matters more than with single-user toys. What buyers recommend:
Clean before and after every use
The Lapis's IPX7 waterproofing means it can be rinsed under running water without concern for the electronics, which makes pre- and post-session cleaning straightforward. Because the same toy touches both partners in one session, it's worth cleaning the bulb and shaft ends during the session too, not only before and after, if either of you is sensitive.
Use toy cleaner, not just water
Water alone doesn't fully remove lubricant residue or bodily fluids from a silicone surface. The usual advice is a water-based toy cleaner, applied and rinsed off, which is gentle on silicone.
Dry it before storing
Silicone toys stored while damp are more prone to attracting dust and lint, which then transfers to skin on the next use. A quick towel-dry after cleaning, followed by air-drying before putting the Lapis back in its storage pouch, keeps it ready for the next session without extra prep.
Keep the charging contacts clean
The Lapis is IPX7, so you can submerge it, but dry the magnetic charging contacts before you charge it.
Lapis vs. the Lovense Gravity
Before looking at other brands, here's how the Lapis compares with the Lovense toy closest in price.
vs. Lovense Gravity
Same price ($129), different purpose. The Lapis is a strapless strap-on with three motors distributed along its shaft, designed for partner-worn penetration without a harness. The Gravity is a suction-cup mounted thrusting toy built for solo or hands-free riding. Choose the Lapis for strapless partner play; choose the Gravity for mounted, hands-free thrusting.
Lapis vs. strapless strap-ons from other brands
The Lapis isn't the only vibrating strapless strap-on. Here's how it compares with two well-known alternatives from other brands:
vs. Fun Factory Share
Three motors vs. two. The Fun Factory Share is a well-regarded vibrating strapless strap-on with independent motors for each end, designed for mutual stimulation in the same spirit as the Lapis. The Lapis adds a third motor, at the tip, for the receiving partner, plus full Lovense app control and long distance. Choose the Share if you want a well-established strapless strap-on with physical button controls; choose the Lapis if you want three independently controlled zones and app/LDR functionality.
vs. Tantus Feeldoe Dual
Vibrating vs. non-vibrating. The Tantus Feeldoe Dual is a classic strapless dildo, liked for its dual-density silicone and secure bulb, with no vibration at all. The Lapis brings three vibrating motors and app control to the same strapless concept. Choose the Feeldoe Dual if you want a non-electronic, fully waterproof toy with a reputation for retention; choose the Lapis if vibration and app-controlled mutual stimulation are priorities.
Buyer experiences
"Three vibration motors? Yes, please! The power is incredible, and the patterns are endless." — Verified buyer · Lovense
"What about 3 motors! Each end delivers intense vibrations, making our playtime unforgettable." — Verified buyer · Lovense
"The vibrations are incredible, and the design is perfect for adventurous play. We’re hooked!" — Verified buyer · Lovense
"We used it with the harness for extra stability and worked great" — Verified buyer · Lovense
"It works fast and is intense and the harness is so easy to adjust and comfortable." — Verified buyer · Lovense
"A harness is definitely important for more intensity" — Verified buyer · Lovense
Is the Lapis worth it in 2026?
At $129, the Lapis is the only Lovense strapless strap-on, and I don't know another with three app-controlled motors. For lesbian, bisexual, trans or pegging couples who want both partners to feel vibration, it combines a strapless design, separate control per end and the full Lovense long-distance features. Verified buyers give it 5.0/5 for vibration, 4.5/5 for quiet and 4.7/5 for orgasms.
Pros
- Three independent motors
- 5.0/5 vibration strength
- 4.5/5 quiet rating
- No harness needed
- Full app control
Cons
- $129, more than most Lovense toys
- More complex app setup with 3 motors
- Takes practice to keep in place
- Larger than single-motor vibrators
Final verdict
The Lovense Lapis scores 8.0/10: it stimulates both partners with separately controlled motors, has full app and long-distance control, and buyers say it stays in once you've learned the fit. The three motors do more than a single-motor strap-on can.
The strapless fit takes practice, so go in knowing that. Once you have it, both partners get their own adjustable vibration, which a harness strap-on with a plain dildo can't give.
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Lovense's strapless strap-on: three motors, app control and pleasure for both, once you've learned the fit.
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I started Pleasure Vibe Reviews after going long-distance with my partner — Sweden to Australia, 15,000km apart. Lovense became essential to our relationship, and I couldn't find reviews that actually answered the questions I had. I research every product thoroughly: manufacturer specs, verified buyer reviews on Reddit, and community feedback — including the things brands don't put in their marketing copy. More about me →
Sources and how I checked this review
What I checked:
- Specifications (motor, battery, waterproof rating, dimensions): checked against the official Lovense product listing and Lovense's user manual, most recently in October 2026.
- Buyer ratings and quotes: from verified buyers on lovense.com, kept separate from my own score.
- Scoring method: my published review methodology, the same grid for every brand.
- Hands-on: I haven't tested the Lapis myself. When a point comes from buyers or the community, I say so.
Review updates
- — Text rewritten in plainer language; specs, prices and claims checked again against Lovense's published data.
- — Prices updated to Lovense's current list prices.
- — Title updated. Battery life at the top, in the spec tables and in the FAQ now quotes Lovense's official figure (Up to 156 min).
- — Prices checked on lovense.com, with Lovense's list price shown next to the regular price.
- — Specs and prices checked against Lovense's product page; table of contents added.
- — Prices and specs corrected to match Lovense's store.
- — Added the “Sources & How I Verified” section.
- — Review first published.
